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" And what good is the most beautiful wife is she transforms her house into a living hell? Much better than her - a thousand times at least - is a wife who has not reached a pinnacle of beauty, but nonetheless has made her house a kind of paradise" ~Aaidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni ~
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Don't be Sad
by Aaidh ibn Abdullah al-Qarni
This books was a gift to us and I think it was an excellent choice for gift. It is a must read for all people, especially those who are always depressed, paranoid and full of negativity in life. It contains practical advises on how to deal with our emotions. Actually I would not quite call it advice. These are basic things that all of us know but are not wise enough to apply when unpleasant situation arises. I have copied an excerpt from the book for one such situation.
It is not a one time reading material. To me it is like a reference and a friendly mentor to turn to. |
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How to Deal with Bitter Criticism (Page 34 to 35)
Those who are ignorant have uttered curses at Allah, the Exalted, the Creator of ill that exists, so what treatment should we, who are full of faults, expect from people. You will always have to face criticism, which in its onslaught is like an interminable war: it shows no sign of ending. As long as you shine, give, produce, and have an effect upon others, then disapproval and condemnation will be your lot in life. Until you escape from people by finding a tunnel in the ground or a ladder leading to the sky, they will not desist from censuring you, from finding fault in your character. For that reason, as long as you are from the denizens of earth, expect to be hurt, to be insulted, and to be criticized.
And here is something you should contemplate: a person who is sitting on the ground does not fall, and people do not kick a dead dog. Therefore their anger toward you can be attributed to you surpassing them in righteousness, knowledge, manners, or wealth. In their eyes you are a transgressor whose wrongs cannot be atoned for unless you abandon your talents and strip yourself of all praiseworthy qualities, so that you become stupid, worthless, and to them, innocuous. This result is exactly what they want for you.
So remain firm and patient when facing their insults and criticism. If you are wounded by their words and let them have an influence over you, you will have realized their hopes for them. Instead, forgive them by showing them the most beautiful of manners. Turn away from them and do not feel distressed by their schemes. Their disapproval of you only increases you in worth and merit.Verily, you will not be able to silence them, but you will be able to bury their criticisms by turning away from them and dismissing what they have to say.
`Perish in your rage '. (Qur 'an 3: 119)
In fact, you will be able to increase them in their rage by increasing your merits and developing your talents.If you desire to be accepted by all and loved by all, you desire the unattainable.
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Don't be Sad